Getting know our messiness.

It can be scary to face certain parts of ourselves that we aren’t proud of. What we don’t always understand is that these parts were formed for a reason. Created as a means of protection that we needed at one time. So instead of being ashamed, get curious and offer that part some compassion. It needs healing and understanding. Good intentions and heart are some of my strengths, my gifts, but it can get blurry for me and it quickly becomes my greatest weakness and source of defeat. Avoiding and putting off conversations or situations where I may disappoint. Trying to soften the blow. Over and over. I realize I will still have to face it but it gets bigger with each avoidance. At one time in my life I felt that disappointment from someone I loved, so now I avoid it. The last thing I would want to do is inflict pain. Sadly, I cause more disappointment with this approach. So what do I need to do change this? Step one: Understand it had a purpose but is no longer needed or serving me well. Step 2: Offer it compassion and get curious about how it was developed. 3: Change it and give it a purpose that will help because that’s what it ultimately wants. I need to remember the goal, to provide people with a safe space. And with that, life gets messy. Disappointment is real and it happens. It can be unavoidable. Owning it and moving through it with compassion for the person you may disappoint and compassion for the messy parts of ourselves.